Wednesday 8 February 2017

Wellbeing | Learning to Love Yourself this Valentines

The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself

I'm the type of person that will give my all for the people I care about and put myself into second place. If you need a lift to the airport at 3am, I'm there. If you need a shoulder to cry on at the last minute, I'll be there. I guess with putting all the people and things I care most about in my life first I often forget about myself because I'm afraid of letting people down. As a child you are taught to be kind and help others without being taught how to love yourself but it's okay to be a little bit selfish sometimes.

The definition of 'self-love' is regard for one's own wellbeing and happiness with emphasis on the word own. It seems to be that self-love is something that everyone struggles with in one shape or another. I'm no different as I've definitely had my own battles, one of which I spoke about recently in my small boobs post, and I'm still guilty of not being able to accept a complement and not quite getting the work, life, study balance right. We are all striving for perfection without assessing how achievable it is, we are too hard on ourselves and social media, magazines and the media often hinder this rather than help. With valentines being less than a week away I think we should all be focussing on and celebrating loving ourselves for our own wellbeing and happiness.

Self-love doesn't have to be over the top or extravagant. It can be the little things which boost confidence, happiness and wellbeing. For me the little luxuries in life can help improve my happiness such as freshly washed bedding, new pyjamas or a long bath with a good book. New or sassy underwear always boosts my confidence regardless of wether someone is going to see it or not because I know it's there and feel good about myself in it. The little joys in life boost my mood, confidence and you know what? I deserve to feel good about myself. There I've said it. I. deserve. to. feel. good. about. myself. The best thing is that everyone deserves to feel good about themselves too.

XOXO Ring // Flamingo Ring

Write down what you love

When was the last time you said 'I love me?' or actually wrote that down? Too many of us are scared to say or write down what we love about ourselves due to the fear of being big-headed and egotistical.

Writing down affirmations with a positive mind means that when thoughts turn slightly more to the negative side you have a physical remembrance of what you love about yourself. Take some time to write a love letter to yourself, or write down as many things as possible that you love about you, aim for a minimum of ten. Why not be your own valentines this year and send yourself a card with all the things you love about you?

Heart Shoes // Chocolates // Vase 

Have a pamper

Take a 'you' day or maybe a 'you' thirty minutes/hour. By spending time focussing on you and what you want to do, you'll naturally stop stressing about others, what they have that you don't or what still needs to be done. Run yourself a hot bath, grab a glass of wine, face pack and lush bath bomb or buy yourself some flowers and treat yourself to those new shoes you've been eyeing up for weeks. Just do more of what makes you happy and do it for you.

Complement Pencils // Love Potion Keyring // Sequin Heart Bag // Love Mug //
Essie Nail Varnish // Melting Hearts // Lace Body // Chloe Perfume // Bees Knees Card 

Celebrate achievements

Achievements are something which should always be celebrated, no matter how big or small and how you choose to celebrate them is up to you. Look back at what you've accomplished and achieved, things you're proud of, and write them all down. Then pick out your top five and list out all the skills that you gained or used to make those achievements possible. At the end you should have a long list of things you've done and all the positive things about yourself that helped you along the way celebrating you.


Create a self-love soundtrack

Sometimes when words can fail, music can speak volumes. Make yourself a playlist of songs which embrace that feeling of self-love and make you feel good about yourself. Personally I'd have to include I'm every woman by Chaka Khan/Whitney, Who Says by Selena Gomez and Unpretty by TLC. Each of those songs makes me want to get up and dance, sing along and also have great lyrics which have inspirational messages too. 

XOXO Ring // Flamingo Ring
Hopefully some valentines self-love will trigger a whole 2017 filled with positive affirmations and love for yourself and start some good habits that will last a lifetime. Banish self hate from rearing it's ugly head and move forward with an awareness for your own happiness and wellbeing. Now everybody sing "I'm every woman, it's all in me".

How do you practice self-love? I'd love to know. Find me on twitter, instagram or Bloglovin' to let me know or leave a comment below.

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